Talking to Children About Divorce

Parents beginning the divorce process often ask us for advice on how and when to talk to children about the upcoming changes in their lives. In this video interview, Owner/Lead Attorney Jill Brittle spoke with Lisa Gabardi, PhD, who suggests talking to children together in a neutral area of the home, to send a message that the parents will continue to work together as co-parents for the benefit of the children. Dr. Gabardi notes that a great rule of thumb for how far in advance to share information with your children is based on their age – 2x the child’s age is recommended in advance of a noticeable change (for example, for a 10-year-old, 20 days in advance of a parent moving out). Learn more about what children need out of this conversation in the video below.

For additional information about successful coparenting after a divorce, read our blog post here.

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Dr. Gabardi is a licensed psychologist with over 30 years of experience helping individuals, couples and families with their relationships, marriages, and divorces. Dr. Gabardi maintains a private practice in Lake Oswego, Oregon providing psychotherapy, couples counseling, mediation, divorce consultation, and collaborative divorce coaching.

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