Communication Tips for Coparents

Parents often struggle to communicate well with their coparent, whether that communication is via email, text, face-to-face meetings, or phone calls. In this video interview, Owner/Lead Attorney Jill Brittle spoke with Lisa Gabardi, PhD, who provides useful tips on how to center oneself before a difficult conversation and how to practice skills to stay calm in the midst of those conversations. One great tip is to have a clear and specific agenda in advance, and to take notes during the conversation, which helps frame the communication as a “business” meeting (since you are in the “business” of coparenting). Learn more in the video below about how listen to your coparent and how to resolve differences for the benefit of the children. Remember, willingness to compromise on parenting issues is a big win for our kids!

For additional information about successful coparenting after a divorce, read our blog post here.

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Dr. Gabardi is a licensed psychologist with over 30 years of experience helping individuals, couples and families with their relationships, marriages, and divorces. Dr. Gabardi maintains a private practice in Lake Oswego, Oregon providing psychotherapy, couples counseling, mediation, divorce consultation, and collaborative divorce coaching.

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